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“This reveals that both reality and our personal identities extend beyond the obvious, and the various levels of our consciousness hold significant practical value”.- Douglas Gillette

Today on Men, This Way:

00:00 Welcoming Douglas M. Gillette
01:01 Discussion on "King, Warrior, Magician, Lover"
01:29 Background of Douglas Gillette
02:00 Douglas' Pastoral Background and Interfaith Work
03:01 Family Dinners and Personal Introductions
04:01 Discussion on Douglas' New Book and Life Experiences
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Why do men often have to hit bottom before we’re able to make meaningful changes in our lives?
Could our cultural obsession with the individual self be serving to propel us towards our collective doom?
Could learning how to properly grieve be key to our vitality, to living a rich, soul-centered life?
Well, in this very special episode, my guest Francis Weller, and I mine these questions and more for useful insights to make a meaningful difference in your life.

And this is a very special episode...

"Historically speaking, when we heard criticism, it was from a potential enemy, so it was biologically natural to get up our defenses.That was really functional for survival. It's just dysfunctional for love”.- Dr. Warren Farrell

Today on Men, This Way:

00:00 Introduction of Dr. Warren Farrell

00:50 Dr. Farrell's background and contribution to understanding modern men's struggles.

01:28 Dr. Farrell's reception and personal experience in the field.

03:49 Discussing the role of criticism in p...

In this episode I explore the themes of manhood and the significance of rites of passage in a man's life. I reflect on my personal experiences and my own lack of intentional initiation into manhood, which continues to haunt many men today. I dive into the importance of having wise elders to guide men through their journeys and the impact of not having these figures in our lives.

ELEVATE 2025: https://bryanreeves.com/elevate
Takeaways
Many men have never undergone a true rite of passage.

The ab...

"Many of us spin our wheels, blame others because we can't find our way out. But the work-this soul work-is about digging deep, finding that genius within." - Michael Mead

Today on Men, This Way:

00:02 Introduction and Welcome
00:29 Michael Mead's Background and Expertise
01:00 Insights on Storytelling and Mythology
02:12 The Role of Early Stories in Personal Development
02:50 Personal Impact of Mythology on Michael Mead
04:09 The Importance of Myth in Understanding Chaos
04:30 Misinterpretati...

“The mother wound is wanting to be saved by someone, some thing, some process outside yourself, and it's not going to happen.” - John Lee
Today on Men, This Way:

0:00 - Introduction & Overview

0:38 - Global Context & Personal Impact

1:16 - Introducing the Mother Wound

1:46 - Reflections on the Mother Wound

2:11 - The Book 'He' and Its Impact

3:37 - Defining the Mother Wound

5:03 - Archetypes of the Mother Wound

6:26 - Personal Stories of Mother Wounds

10:13 - The Mother vs. Father Wound...

"I'm not against pornography; however, if you're using it to distract yourself or to numb the pain you're experiencing, it might be serving as an escape from having tough conversations" .- Bryan Reeves

Today on Men, This Way:

00:02 Greetings & Reconnection

01:08 Celebration of Elevate 2025

02:27 Discussion on Male Relationships & Growth

03:58 Importance of Men's Groups

05:44 Introducing the Concept of Resistance

07:11 Deep Dive into Resistance

10:16 The Illusion of Control

12:48 Daily R...

"They have to organize. if we're organized where the kids come first, well, the couple is dead, long live the kids, they go away and bye. Because we lost that loving feeling, we never nurtured it. We weren't important enough to maintain." - Dr. Stan Tatkin

Today on Men, This Way:
00:00 Introduction
01:48 PACT Method and Psychobiological Approach
02:22 Personal Reflections on Dr. Tatkin's Work
04:40 Setting Up the Discussion on Relationships
05:09 Defining Secure Functioning Relationships
05:44 ...

"I constantly remind parents to ask their children how they feel and to always respond with 'thank you for sharing.' This simple practice can transform relationships.” -Brooke Weinstein

Today on Men, This Way:
02:02 Welcome & Introduction.

02:32 Acknowledging Past Discussions.

03:08 Expertise in Sensory and Emotional Regulation.

03:28 The Importance of Parental Emotional Regulation.

03:40Understanding Co-Regulation.

05:38 Influence of Parental Behavior on Children.

07:50 Addressing Challe...

I’ve got a profound episode for you today. My guest is Bill Plotkin, one of the most genius and inspired visionaries of our time that you’ve likely never heard of.

He’s the author of a few books that have rocked my world, most notably, Nature and The Human Soul.

When I first read Nature and The Human Soul some years ago, I felt like I’d discovered a sacred tablet with the codes to living every stage of life well.

Through his work spanning 5 decades as a depth psychologist, wilderness guide, a...

"We're hardwired not just for survival but for connection. We need different types of bonds, like intimate ones with partners. Many of us struggle because we didn’t experience enough secure attachment as children." - Owen Marcus
Today on Men, This Way:
00:00 Welcome & Introduction

01:07 Background and Everyman

02:20 Early Challenges with Dyslexia and Asperger's

03:25 Realizations and Growth

04:23 Motivation to Start Men's Work

05:00 The Importance of Feeling in Relationships

08:33 Introduc...

I’m talking today with my dear friend, intimacy coach and expert, and just all around lovely human being, Allana Pratt. We’re talking about Presence … whatever does that mean!

So many of us men may get that feedback from an intimate partner … “I just don’t feel your presence” …or “I don’t feel connected to you.” Or … “It’s like you’re not really here.” … and we have no idea what they’re talking about because ... "I’m right here!!!!"

So, I invited Alanna on to explore presence … from a woman’s ...

“I didn't believe my stories or experiences had value, so I lacked confidence. But being in this group, getting feedback, and realizing that what I share brings value, joy, and insight has filled me with confidence.

- Jeff Wright -Elevate 2024 Member.

"My confidence comes from knowing I have a trustable brotherhood to rely on, something I never had before."

- Scott Silvi - Elevate 2024 Member.

“You can bring anything—your suffering, questions, or sadness—and you'll get caring feedback withou...

I’ve got a special episode for you today … if you’ve been listening this year, you know that after 4 years of doing this podcast I’ve invited my long-time childhood best-friend of 40 years, Tait, … to co-host the podcast with me. And the last 10 or so episodes we’ve been doing just that …

Tait is also my business partner and co-facilitator for the last 4 years in the men’s work we’ve been hosting for men all over the world. He and I together have stewarded around 70 men through our two immersiv...

"If you make room for your gifts, your gifts will make room for you." - Preston Smiles

Today on Men, This Way:
00:00 Introduction and Welcoming Preston Smiles

04:40 Honoring Preston's Journey and Friendship

10:52 Preston's Philosophy on Failure and Success

22:52 Conversations With God

27:24 Impact of Shame and Forgiveness

33:40 Somatic Body and Joy Alarms

49: 39 Challenges of Masculinity and Porn

59:27 Navigating Marriage and Relationships

1:01:50 The Importance of Conflict Resolution w...

"The heroic individual carries such an onerous responsibility. Don't we want to be entangled, connected, and create a community so we don’t have to carry everything on our shoulders?" - Sophie Strand

Today on Men, This Way:

07:45 - Sophie’s introduction to her life and work background.

15:36 - Bryan's journey on healing his masculine energy through reading 'Women Who Run With the Wolves.

16:55 - Sophie shares the evolution of her life through writing and how it evolves along with her life.

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"I think one of the greatest freedoms we men can give ourselves is through the willingness to be hurt. It's the greatest practice that leads to profound freedom.“ - Bryan Reeves

Today on Men, This Way:

01:40 - Tait and Bryan share their highlights from the men's retreat

05: 00- How Tait and Bryan experienced brotherhood building.

08:17 - Understanding the fruits of having a trustworthy brotherhood.

12:41 - Reasons that keep men from building a trustable brotherhood

17:19 - Understanding wh...

"If you have never chosen to tap your toe into the world of vulnerability, sharing, being open, and being interested in your feelings, it's going to be very uncomfortable and scary. That's because your brain is saying, 'Hold on, I'm not used to doing this. This is uncharted territory, and this doesn't feel safe.” - Brooke Weinstein

Today on Men, This Way:
04:30 - Understanding how our brain works involves identifying specific behaviors and patterns to start embracing regulated parenting.

11:48...

“Grief sculpts our souls and crafts our characters into the men that we're supposed to be.” — Joshua Wenner

Today on Men, This Way:

03:22 – The pervasive presence of grief in men's lives

04:02 – Why men resist talking about grief

05:02 – Understanding grief from birth and navigating change

06:33 – Men resisting grief and its impact on growth

09:25 – Joshua’s personal encounters with grief

13:22 – Coping mechanisms: Achievement, avoidance, and commitment to grief work

15:19 – Interviewing...

“Understanding our attachment styles and how they influence our relationships can transform the way we connect with others. It's not about reaching a perfect state of secure attachment but about attuning to our own needs and those of our partners. This journey is a lifelong process of learning, growing, and healing together.” — Silvy Khoucasian

Today on Men, This Way:

5:05 – Silvy's inspiration for exploring attachment styles during her psychology studies

6:15 – The attachment theory and how ...

“The path to an unbreakable connection is the commitment to staying in partnership, no matter what.” — Bryan Reeves

Today on Men, This Way:

2:24 – The emotional investment people have in relationships

3:08 – Exploring the real reasons behind conflicts in relationships

4:17 – The concept of “crisis of connection” in relationships

5:38 – Ending unnecessary conflict as a bridge to connection

6:42 – The importance of support in men’s groups

19:55 – Weekly connection rituals with family

23:27...

“Honesty without kindness is just cruel. But kindness without honesty is manipulation. And honesty with kindness, that’s divine. So I think that’s an inquiry that serves us well to live in, like, ‘How can I be honest?

“One of the benefits of having this tool, knowing how to hold other men accountable, is that you get to call men into their greatness. You get to help your kids, your partners, your friends, and your own life step into greatness. So,

“Sometimes the initiation of conflict is really a bid for connection. It’s really a desire to figure out how we can get this connection going again. A thriving intimate relationship through conflict and repair, it’s vital for us.